I want to share a little bit more about your authentic self and I am wondering how much do you know about ‘Who you truly are’ and whether you are expressing your authentic self? Or are there masks that you’ve been trying to break through, in the hope that some how you will get to know ‘Who you truly are’?
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” Brene’ Brown
This is a conversation that I quite often have with my clients and what I find is that they are often comparing themselves to other people, and other competitors. I work with high achievers, leaders, entrepreneurs, people who are very much in the business, corporate world, who want to identify themselves apart from the academic side of themselves, so that they can connect and engage naturally. And that takes a lot of courage, a lot of bravery in breaking that down, which is not a quick fix it, it is not a head strategy alone.
Behind Closed Doors
One of the things that came up with my first 2 clients this morning is how much we are looking outside for validation without even realising. They told me just how much they were being caught up with looking at what their competitors are doing. I noticed the frustration in their tone of voice as they told me how much they were losing focus of their own vision.
Yes, obviously we need to know ‘the gap in the market’, but ultimately when it comes to being your authentic self ‘it’s an inside job’. It is about sensing the trends in the market place and trusting your instincts, as you stay in your lane, taking action on your inspirational vision.
It is about blocking out all the noises and the distractions on the outside so that you can really listen into your inner mentor. The person inside who is really getting to know you; because your head strategy and a lot of our knowledge and past experiences, background; is possibly getting in the way of uncovering, discovering and exploring who you really are.
Trust Your Intuitive Knowing
A lot of the high achievers I work with (and I am one of them) are very much impatient type people and it is very natural for them to go into head strategy. If you want to get into the heart of it in getting to know who you truly are then it takes patience. It is not a perfection game, it is a lot of patience in exploring yourself and that takes time, it takes bravery, it takes possibly going against the norm. Yet identifying areas that feel intuitively right for you at that time, even if you are going against the grain of what others are doing.
One of the things that came up this morning with a client was around the amount of content and training that is available today that is causing a lot of pressure and overwhelm. My client who is a very highly qualified academic business leader told me that no matter how much more knowledge she gained, she had a sense of ‘still not knowing enough’.
She quickly realised that she had been continually gaining knowledge all her life, which kept her inside a cycle of ‘still trying to prove herself to her peers’. She felt a strong sense that she wanted to really connect as a whole person – not just at a head academic level. Somewhere along her path, she disconnected from the purpose and meaning of the subject she was most passionate about and especially disengaged from her deeper why at a humanistic level.
“You’re not going to really know why you do what you do until you know who you really are.”
This is about really going into the essence of who you truly are. T he heart and soul of the content and the purpose of the content, which we call ‘the why’ why you do what you do. Ultimately, you’re not going to know why you do, as generally a lot of those reasons come from the head alone at the start. You’re not going to really know why you do what you do until you know who you really are – that’s not a head strategy – it comes from a life exploration with something that opens up in life.
Out of the blue, you might find yourself in a transitional phase. In your career, business, relationship, a transition, whatever the case might be that has you start a path of self-reflection. Going into yourself and really looking at what is important to you, what are the things that you may have outgrown, checking in on your belief systems that you may have picked up along the way that may have served you for a certain period of your personal, professional life that no longer works for you.
The Value of Self-Reflection Time
That’s why it is important to have that self-reflection time and my suggestion to a lot of my clients when they are in their busy head strategy, is to write this down. This will get whatever is going around and around in your head, into a clearing that is heart connected. Another powerful pathway is to have an exploration conversation with a professional coach who creates a space for you to process those things in a way that gains clarity and insight quicker than what you would on your own.
If this is something you’re interested in and you want to explore and work privately with me, then that is something that I am passionate about exploring that side of who you truly are, what’s important to you based on where you are now and how you know you want to set it up. Or there is an instinctual knowing that there is a change occurring, yet you do not know what that may look like, so it is important to explore who you are now before we step into the what and the how. Because there is a lot of strategy out there in the world based on ‘What do you want?’ and ‘How do you want to go about doing it?’ without the exploration of ‘Who you truly are?’ – and that’s what I’m passionate about.
Please feel free to connect with me. Have a fabulous day being the essence of who you truly are.